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Our world is all about social networking now. From Hi5 and Myspace to Facebook and Twitter. Blogging on blogspot and wordpress and of course the video-world of Youtube!

They can take a huge amount of our time. You may decide to ‘quickly’ check what’s going on but before you know it, 3 hours have gone by!

You may not be wasting time on these websites per se, since you are reading Hadith reminders, and ayat from the Quran and forming bonds with fellow brothers and sisters in Islam which is all really great Alhamdulilah! But if all those hours are spent online then when are we acting on these tweets and facebook posts?

Ask yourself these questions?

  • How many hours do I spend on Facebook looking at friends’ profiles, the pictures and all the comments?
  • How many hours do I spend reading the profile of Prophet Muhammad (saw) and glancing over the comments about him?
  • How many hours do I spend reading words and quotes that people in the Twittersphere have posted in comparison to the hours spent reading Allah’s words that He posted to us for guidance in this life?
  • How many hours do I spend daily on all these different networking sites in comparison to how long I’ve spent with my family and my friends

Now there’s no harm in using these sites, as long as it is all halal and it’s amazing when we can learn new things on the go! But remember that time is valuable, it is what we can use to build our good deeds for the Akhira. So keep it all in moderation InshAllah.

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The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “A man is upon the religion of his friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Jami at-Tirmidhi)

We are very heavily influenced by the company we keep. Slowly and without us noticing, though perhaps others might, we adopt the thinking, habits, beliefs, mannerisms and lifestyle of our friends. So it is therefore crucial that we choose friends who will remind us of Allah (swt), keep us on the right path. They should be people we can learn from, people we respect and admire.  People we will also help to improve on a daily basis. 

Nowadays we think a friend is someone who will support you no matter what.  Because that’s what society tells us a friend should be. It’s what we see on Friends, and 90210. But when you make a choice that you later realize was a big mistake, don’t you feel even the slightest bit upset that your friend didn’t warn you or tell you that it wasn’t such a good idea? When our friends ‘support’ us through bad decisions and keep quiet, we think ‘oh what great friends I have, being our backbone’ but in reality; not only are they not doing you any good, but they are harming you. They don’t let you distinguish between right and wrong. They make you think that whatever you choose to do is the right thing. You will then pick up on what they believe is right and adopt their habits and their lifestyle, and you might end up going down the wrong path in life. Would you call that a good friend?

Remember that a friend is someone who might not always tell you what you want to hear. Yep, that’s right, it might hurt at times, but  that’s exactly how you know they genuinely care for you and are helping you to stay on the Sunnah.

Surround yourself with people who you know are trying their best to stay on the right path. People who love Allah (swt), people whose goal is to reach Jannah. You will start to pick up on their good habits, do the good deeds that they do, love Allah (swt) too and have the common goal to enter Jannah InshAllah.

Be upon the religion of these friends.

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It’s incredibly unfortunate that we as Muslims have become so judgmental of our brothers and sisters, when this trait is the complete opposite of what fits the true Islamic personality.

We’ll judge those who don’t dress ‘as modestly as us’. Sisters wearing hijab will shoot disapproving stares at sisters not wearing hijab as they enter the prayer room. We’ll look down on those who have headphones on all day, muttering ‘Istaghfurallah’ under our breaths.

These people are lost causes, they’ll never be guided. They won’t accept the deen like we have, because we’re so righteous? Because we guided ourselves, we brought ourselves to the deen? No! Let’s stop thinking we are better than others. We were given a gift from Allah, He gave us an opportunity to get closer to Him, and allowed us to take it.

We only see what is on the outside, people’s appearance. Therefore our negative opinions of others are baseless assumptions. And often these assumptions and suspicions lead to backbiting, that is, speaking ill of another person behind his or her back. And I already posted an article about gossiping last month. But backbiting can also be in the unspoken form, by just having these ill opinions of others.

But Allah (swt) can see what is on the outside and inside, the apparent and the hidden. Only He knows their sincerity and what is in their hearts. It could be that Allah wants to veil their goodness from others. These ‘non-hijabi’ sisters may be more sincere than all of us put together, and hold higher ranks in Allah’s eyes.  Brothers with headphones on may be listening to Quran all day for all we know. And even if they are not, this does not mean that they won’t be guided or that they are so ‘far from Allah (swt)’. Our stares and attitudes towards them will only drive them out of the prayer rooms and Masjids or worse still, drive them away from the deen.

Instead of judging others, why don’t we try to help each other. And I don’t mean by using harsh words and calling people haram! I mean, if we think someone can improve in one way or another, we can tell them gently without being condescending, show them that we care for our brothers and sisters in Islam. We can tell them we’re also trying to improve in that aspect so they don’t feel they’re being judged and it’ll show that we’re all in a path towards Allah together, and we should help each other to do so. Our Ummah should be one strong bond; holding us together, not weak; turning us against each other.

Before we start to judge anyone, whether they are Muslim or not, we should look at ourselves first. I’m sure we can all find plenty of things we need to work on in our hearts, minds and deen, starting with this tendency to judge others.

The meat of the matter is, we are all waiting for that one Judgement Day, where every one of us will be judged. But we will be judged by our Creator, at the end of Dunya. So we have no right to judge people before they have  even left this life. Let’s  leave judgement only to Allah (swt).

May Allah forgive us for any judgments we have made on others and help us to purify our hearts and minds.

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Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “There are two blessings which many people lose: health and free time for doing good.” (Sahih Bukhari – The Book of Ar-Riqaq)


Let’s focus on the free time part of this hadith. When we are in an exam hall, and we’ve not yet finished the paper, do we have free time to sit back or get distracted?

As long as we are alive, our life is an ongoing, continuous exam. On Judgement Day, we will be judged on what we did with every moment of it. And our results on that Day will determine our Hereafter, which of course is the rest of our lives forever. Do we have time to get distracted with worldly concerns, and temptations?

If our life exam is still incomplete, can we experience free time?

Quick Tip: Think about where most of your time goes, how many hours do you spend wasting time? How can you then use that time for good, and use it to help you pass the test of this life?

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Our parents often ask us to ‘fix’ their Hotmail accounts, to help them understand what Writing on a Wall is and to explain what on earth Twitter is. We, feeling quite proud of ourselves in the process, take some of our time to sit down and help them. Seems like a sweet little scenario..

Until… They ask us something we’ve just explained a total of 5 seconds ago, or they ask something we think was so obvious, it didn’t even need mentioning. We start to answer them in a more agitated and condescending manner. Our frustration spikes through our words and we find ourselves wanting to rush through it so we can get on with our more important errands of the day. We try hard not to utter the word ‘Uff’ out loud but it runs through our minds a few hundred times.

But just like all kids, we were once curious and we asked A LOT of questions! About things like aeroplanes and squirrels. We’d badger them non-stop. We’d ask ‘but why?’ after every sentence they said. Our mothers smiled at us, kissed us on the forehead and answered our pestering questions. Our fathers taught us how to make paper aeroplanes. Our mothers and fathers took us for walks in the park to find these apparently fascinating squirrels. 

Yet we can’t answer them with decency and respect when they ask us a few more questions than we would like.

Since the day we were born, our mothers tended to our every need even when we cried our eyes out and they didn’t even know what we were crying for. They fed us when we were hungry, they played games with us, they sacrificed going anywhere to stay home with us.
Our fathers provided for us throughout our lives, taught us maths so we’d get good grades, listened to us go on about the new facts we learnt at school.

Allah subhanahu wa ta3ala says in the Quran:

“We have instructed man to honour his parents.” (29:8)


Let’s remember to give them the respect they deserve. To never give them a less than loving tone. To help them with anything and everything they need because even if we do this, we still wouldn’t come close to matching all that they’ve done for us.

I think the latest score is still —> Parents infinity ∞ – Kids 0 but we can try to please them and make them happy for as long we live InshAllah.

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Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Strange are the ways of a believer for there is good in every affair of his, and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer: For if he has an occasion to feel delight, he thanks (Allah), thus there is good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (enduring it patiently), there is good for him in it.”-  (Muslim)

 Non believers and some believers nowadays only consider themselves fortunate if they are wealthy, healthy and don’t have any problems (which is never or rare!) But for a true believer who has trust and hope in Allah (subhanahu wa ta3ala) is lucky all of the time. 

When life is going well for us, we can be thankful to Allah (swt) for it is He who has given us the blessing. And when life is on rocky grounds, there is good in it too. There are many benefits from hardships that I can think of –

  • We learn to be patient and Allah (swt) loves patience
  • We appreciate that Allah (swt) has only given us this hardship because He knows we can handle it and grow stronger
  • Allah (swt) expiates some of our sins from every hardship or struggle we go through
  • We put our trust and hope in Allah (swt) to get us through and know that Allah will give us something better in this life or in the Akhira InshAllah
  • We deal with our problems in the best way possible, with peace of mind and heart
In all circumstances of our life, we are truly blessed and lucky. He really is the Most Merciful and Most Gracious. Alhamdulilah.

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