Our parents often ask us to ‘fix’ their Hotmail accounts, to help them understand what Writing on a Wall is and to explain what on earth Twitter is. We, feeling quite proud of ourselves in the process, take some of our time to sit down and help them. Seems like a sweet little scenario..

Until… They ask us something we’ve just explained a total of 5 seconds ago, or they ask something we think was so obvious, it didn’t even need mentioning. We start to answer them in a more agitated and condescending manner. Our frustration spikes through our words and we find ourselves wanting to rush through it so we can get on with our more important errands of the day. We try hard not to utter the word ‘Uff’ out loud but it runs through our minds a few hundred times.

But just like all kids, we were once curious and we asked A LOT of questions! About things like aeroplanes and squirrels. We’d badger them non-stop. We’d ask ‘but why?’ after every sentence they said. Our mothers smiled at us, kissed us on the forehead and answered our pestering questions. Our fathers taught us how to make paper aeroplanes. Our mothers and fathers took us for walks in the park to find these apparently fascinating squirrels. 

Yet we can’t answer them with decency and respect when they ask us a few more questions than we would like.

Since the day we were born, our mothers tended to our every need even when we cried our eyes out and they didn’t even know what we were crying for. They fed us when we were hungry, they played games with us, they sacrificed going anywhere to stay home with us.
Our fathers provided for us throughout our lives, taught us maths so we’d get good grades, listened to us go on about the new facts we learnt at school.

Allah subhanahu wa ta3ala says in the Quran:

“We have instructed man to honour his parents.” (29:8)

Let’s remember to give them the respect they deserve. To never give them a less than loving tone. To help them with anything and everything they need because even if we do this, we still wouldn’t come close to matching all that they’ve done for us.

I think the latest score is still —> Parents infinity ∞ – Kids 0 but we can try to please them and make them happy for as long we live InshAllah.


Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Strange are the ways of a believer for there is good in every affair of his, and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer: For if he has an occasion to feel delight, he thanks (Allah), thus there is good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (enduring it patiently), there is good for him in it.”-  (Muslim)

 Non believers and some believers nowadays only consider themselves fortunate if they are wealthy, healthy and don’t have any problems (which is never or rare!) But for a true believer who has trust and hope in Allah (subhanahu wa ta3ala) is lucky all of the time. 

When life is going well for us, we can be thankful to Allah (swt) for it is He who has given us the blessing. And when life is on rocky grounds, there is good in it too. There are many benefits from hardships that I can think of –

  • We learn to be patient and Allah (swt) loves patience
  • We appreciate that Allah (swt) has only given us this hardship because He knows we can handle it and grow stronger
  • Allah (swt) expiates some of our sins from every hardship or struggle we go through
  • We put our trust and hope in Allah (swt) to get us through and know that Allah will give us something better in this life or in the Akhira InshAllah
  • We deal with our problems in the best way possible, with peace of mind and heart
In all circumstances of our life, we are truly blessed and lucky. He really is the Most Merciful and Most Gracious. Alhamdulilah.

Nowadays, it is very common to hear phrases such as ‘Omg, you will not believe this…’, ‘Guess what just happened..’ Usually the continuation of sentences like these is not very pleasant, but rather it’s gossip.

We hear it on a day to day basis, at school, universities and in the workplace. It happens all the time as though it is no longer taboo to talk about others in their absence. Sadly, it’s so regular that it is difficult to refrain from joining in, or even just to avoid listening to it.

As Muslims, striving to better ourselves and avoid ill behaviour, we need to recognize the gravity of such conversations, and find ways to steer clear of them. 

The Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

“The majority of man’s sins emanate from his tongue” – (Tabarani)

 Even if we have avoided major sins such as lying, mistreating our parents and so on, we may have accumulated mountains of sins, just because of what we say. Gossiping is one way of misusing our tongues, and there are others – for example judging others and expressing it, but that’s another story for another time.

Allah (swt) has also cautioned us in the Qur’an:

“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear God. Verily, God is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” (49:12)

It’s believed by many scholars that just listening to gossip/backbiting is equally as bad as joining in, because it is as though we are approving it. Listening to people talk about others will taint our opinions of them, even when we make a conscious effort not to be affected by the negative attitudes we hear. 

Also, if these people are gossiping about others, who’s to say that they don’t gossip about you when you aren’t around? We certainly wouldn’t like it if we knew we were being talked about in that manner.

Now that we’ve understood the dangers of gossiping, that it may prevent us from entering Jannah and that Islam teaches us to have good character in all our affairs, how do we go about avoiding it?

There are a few ways and it all depends on your own personal preference and character –

1)   Stop the gossip

As we know from another hadith by our beloved Muhammad (saw) –

“Whoever of you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand, and if he is not able to do so, then with his tongue, and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of faith.” (Muslim)

So, when we hear someone gossiping, we should try to stop it. We can teach and help others to refrain from such activities and remind them that it isn’t right. You will find that many Muslims and non-Muslims are very receptive and also agree that it’s improper and offensive and will stop. Not only have you now gained ajir for not committing a sin, but you’ve also gained reward for helping others to avoid it too.

Also, being a good example in front of non-Muslims gives them a better opinion about the character of a Muslim. At the end of the day, we are walking representations of Islam and we should always aim to portray the teachings of the beautiful religion through our everyday actions and decisions. In fact, in doing this, you are carrying out your duty in regards to dawah. Your continuous grasp on morals and strong principles may affect someone to accept Islam. And what a reward that would be!

Of course, remember that when telling others to refrain from gossiping, it should be done so with the utmost manners (otherwise it defeats the whole point of having good character!).

2)    Change the subject

Find a topic that would interest your colleagues/classmates, or something of higher importance that would easily guide them away from the initial gossip.

3)    Leave the conversation/busy yourself

It is understandable that sometimes it is difficult to stop gossipy conversations in certain settings. The hadith says the one who cannot stop an evil action by hand or tongue is the weakest of faith; but it’s not to say that you aren’t a good Muslim.

Everybody is different in the way that they behave and undoubtedly in their personalities too. Some situations, as in the workplace for example, it becomes very awkward to start preaching good manners to your supervisors and managers, and you may not feel it is appropriate in your particular position.

In circumstances like these, you could leave the conversation by walking away or by getting on with work to show that you are not a part of the discussion, and you might notice that they are then no longer involving you. Some may view this as secluding oneself, or being antisocial, but it is far better to pass up on ill-intentioned talk that will affect our hearts than to join in. Also, you are not cutting ties or avoiding them as individuals but rather just the particular conversations.

With time, they may come to realise you are never a part of their gossiping sessions and will automatically not involve you. Again, this will give them respect for you and if they see that all the Muslims they encounter are the same with regards to this, they will associate good character with our beautiful and perfect religion.

For any of you reading this feeling a bit uneasy because you would like to avoid these situations but feel it is very difficult, just remember that Rasul Allah (saw) said:

“The reward is according to your expenses or the hardship (which you will undergo performing it)” – (Bukhari)

Of course in Islam, we shouldn’t make things difficult for ourselves but we should remember that we will be rewarded according to our struggles. So InshAllah we can follow the way of the Prophet (saw) and put our trust in Allah when we find ourselves in difficult positions like these.

We have phones so we can contact our family and friends from wherever we are. But when we’re gone, the phones are of no use to us. We can’t call anyone from the grave. 

We have cars to get us from A to B. But when we’re gone, the cars are of no use to us. We can’t drive those cars to bring us back. 

Good deeds (and the ajir/reward from them) are the only things we need in this life, and can also take with us when we’re gone. 

“Whatever is with you, will be exhausted, and whatever is with Allah (of good deeds) will remain.” – (Quran 16:96)

We may want and need these things in this Dunya, but we also need ajir and thawab to help us in our journey to Allah (swt), to gain the Akhira, to enter Jannah. 

So why not try and find ways to get ajir even after you’ve left the Dunya. As Rasul Allah (salAllahu alaihi wa sallam) says:

“When a man dies, his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge and righteous offspring who will pray for him.” (Sahih Muslim)

Here are 7 examples of such deeds:

  1. Give a copy of the Quran to someone. Each time one reads from it, you gain
  2. Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it, you gain
  3. Participate in welfare projects, eg, building a Masjid, hospital, school, a homeless shelter
  4. Place a water cooler in a public place
  5. Plant a tree, you gain whenever a person or animal sits in its shade or eats from it
  6. Pass on your knowledge to others who will benefit and also pass it on to generations
  7. Raise your children with high Islamic values so that InshAllah they will be righteous and do the same, and pray for you

And a bonus 8th deed is to share this message with everyone you know. Even if one person applies any of the above, you will gain InshAllah.

“An Islamophobe is a person who does not know how to think for himself or does not want to think for himself but instead let’s the media control his thinking.” – Abdul Bary Yahya

Sometimes when we embark upon a new journey or aim for particular goals, whether they are in our personal lives, our careers or studies, we may find ourselves not doing very well, or even failing. We spend so much time and effort working towards our goals, but in the end, it feels like a slap around the face. It’s most disheartening when we’ve tried over and over, but still it seems we’re not getting anywhere. We feel like our efforts for weeks, months and years went out the window in an instant as if they were worth nothing. 

I wanted to take my time to remind you and myself that our efforts never go to waste. Whenever we feel this way, we should remember Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala’s words – 

“Indeed, this is for you a reward, and your effort has been appreciated” – Quran 76:22

Alhamdulilah, our efforts are recognized and are appreciated, and we still get a reward whether or not we succeed. As long as we are sincere about our actions, and we are ultimately doing it all for His sake, we will get rewarded for every step of the way, big or small, even if we fail. Even when we only intend to do good, but cannot do it, we are being rewarded. This is the level of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala’s appreciation. SubhanAllah! So when this is the case, then He is without doubt rewarding us for all our efforts and struggles too.

Our negative emotions and our feeling to give up come from the infamous Shaytaan. “You won’t succeed in your job, just forget it”, “You can’t make amends with your mother, so give up”,  “Did you really think you as one individual could help the unfortunate, it’s pointless”  Yup, you guessed it, that’s all him! Shaytaan tries to deceive us by telling us to give up and to doubt and question ourselves, our abilities and make us forget the benefits of our actions and our efforts. Allah rewards us further when we ignore Shaytaan and try again, because we are placing stronger trust in Allah to help us through it, even when we know it is difficult for us. 

But of course, Allah (swt) also knows it is difficult for us. But we should keep trying, and Allah will not forget our efforts. Of course, sometimes we should think about whether it is our tactics that need amending. For example, if we study hard time and time again but still fail the exam, although we should keep trying, it may be that we must change how we study (so that it is more effective) and then try again. Allah knows our struggle and pain and we will be compensated for it in whichever way Allah sees fit.

If you don’t see the outcomes you hoped for in this life, then maybe Allah (swt) will reward you with something far better in the next. Keep your hope in Allah strong InshAllah.

7 Jummah Jewels

Sometimes we get asked why Friday is important in Islam and we can only answer with a blank face. But after reading this compliation of ahadith, InshAllah you will know some of the jewels of Jummah.


1) The Prophet (saw) said, “The best day on which the sun has ever risen is Friday; on that day, Adam was created, he was admitted to Paradise, and he was expelled from there.” He has also said, “Among the best of your days is Friday. On that day, invoke blessings on me frequently, for your blessings are presented to me.” – Sahih Muslim


2) Rasul-Allah (SAW) said, “The Sun does not rise nor set on a day that is better than Friday, and there is no creature that is not scared of Friday except for humans and jinns.” They are afraid because Judgment Day will be on a Friday.


3) Narrated Abu Hurairah: The Prophet (SAW) said, “There is a time on Friday at which a Muslim, while he is offering Salat and is supplicating, will be granted whatever he is asking for.” He indicated with his hands that this period of time is very short – Sahih Bukhari (some say this time is from when the Imam leading the Friday prayer enters the masjid until the salah is over, some say it is the last hour of the day, that being after Asr and before Maghrib, but it is unknown. This should encourage us to make efforts in worship throughout the day.


4) “On Fridays, angels will be sent to the doors of the Masjid to write down the names of the people who enter the Masjid. When the Imam goes to the pulpit, they close their books, put down their pens, and start asking each other: ‘what has kept so and so from coming to Juma’ah?’ They then pray: ‘Oh Allah, if so and so is misguided, please guide him, and if he is sick, please cure him, and if he is needy, please enrich him.’” – Sahih Bukhari 


5) Rasulullah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “The word “shaahid” refers to Friday . There is no day more virtuous than Friday. There is such an hour in this day that no Muslim will make dua in it except that his dua will be accepted. And he does not seek protection from anything except that Allah Ta’ala will grant him protection . ” (Tirmidhi) The word “shaahid” appears in Surah Burooj . Allah Ta’ala has taken an oath of that day. He says in the Quran:

“By the sky in which there are constellations .By the promised day (of judgement). By the day that witnesses (Friday), and the day that is witnessed (day of Arafah). “


6) Rasulullah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “The Muslim who passes away on the night or during the day of Friday, Allah Ta’ala saves him from the punishment of the grave . ” (Tirmidhi)


7) Rasulullah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Friday is the “mother” of all days and the most virtuous in the sight of Allah Ta’ala. In the sight of Allah Ta’ala it has more greatness than Eid ul-Fitr and Eid ul-Ad’haa.” (Ibn Majah)