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It’s incredibly unfortunate that we as Muslims have become so judgmental of our brothers and sisters, when this trait is the complete opposite of what fits the true Islamic personality.

We’ll judge those who don’t dress ‘as modestly as us’. Sisters wearing hijab will shoot disapproving stares at sisters not wearing hijab as they enter the prayer room. We’ll look down on those who have headphones on all day, muttering ‘Istaghfurallah’ under our breaths.

These people are lost causes, they’ll never be guided. They won’t accept the deen like we have, because we’re so righteous? Because we guided ourselves, we brought ourselves to the deen? No! Let’s stop thinking we are better than others. We were given a gift from Allah, He gave us an opportunity to get closer to Him, and allowed us to take it.

We only see what is on the outside, people’s appearance. Therefore our negative opinions of others are baseless assumptions. And often these assumptions and suspicions lead to backbiting, that is, speaking ill of another person behind his or her back. And I already posted an article about gossiping last month. But backbiting can also be in the unspoken form, by just having these ill opinions of others.

But Allah (swt) can see what is on the outside and inside, the apparent and the hidden. Only He knows their sincerity and what is in their hearts. It could be that Allah wants to veil their goodness from others. These ‘non-hijabi’ sisters may be more sincere than all of us put together, and hold higher ranks in Allah’s eyes.  Brothers with headphones on may be listening to Quran all day for all we know. And even if they are not, this does not mean that they won’t be guided or that they are so ‘far from Allah (swt)’. Our stares and attitudes towards them will only drive them out of the prayer rooms and Masjids or worse still, drive them away from the deen.

Instead of judging others, why don’t we try to help each other. And I don’t mean by using harsh words and calling people haram! I mean, if we think someone can improve in one way or another, we can tell them gently without being condescending, show them that we care for our brothers and sisters in Islam. We can tell them we’re also trying to improve in that aspect so they don’t feel they’re being judged and it’ll show that we’re all in a path towards Allah together, and we should help each other to do so. Our Ummah should be one strong bond; holding us together, not weak; turning us against each other.

Before we start to judge anyone, whether they are Muslim or not, we should look at ourselves first. I’m sure we can all find plenty of things we need to work on in our hearts, minds and deen, starting with this tendency to judge others.

The meat of the matter is, we are all waiting for that one Judgement Day, where every one of us will be judged. But we will be judged by our Creator, at the end of Dunya. So we have no right to judge people before they have  even left this life. Let’s  leave judgement only to Allah (swt).

May Allah forgive us for any judgments we have made on others and help us to purify our hearts and minds.

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